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military wife
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Today I was ripped to shreds on social media by the other photographer wives on base that I have literally never met. 

These are people that share a passion with me and I’m ashamed to say so. People that are angry at me for “taking all the clients” don’t deserve to work with people at all. These “clients” are regular people just like you and me, they are not objects nor are they anyone’s for the “taking.” I’m appalled at the unprofessionalism of these wives. You took to facebook to rant about how I’m a “cheap photographer”, how it “pisses you off”, and how I’m “not a quality photographer”. That pity party alone should scare anyone away from your business. And what’s worse? All the other photographer wives came to share in your rant, agree with you, and share in their hatred of me. And the only reason I know about this is from a friend who’s friends with them on the site. 

You want clients? Go out and get some. Nobody has limited you to the people on base except for yourself. I came here with nothing. I’ve made maybe two friends in the whole 6 months I’ve lived here. I didn’t take any photographs for 4 months because I was too intimidated by how many photographers were already making a steady living here. Then one day I decided I would give it a shot. It was a slow start, but I got a couple sessions booked. Then that turned into more. I priced low because I was new at this whole “family session” thing, not because I wasn’t a seasoned photographer. I decided to run the pricing for a couple months to build a network and get my name out there. All the other successful photo wives lean on and support each other here, they recommend each other to people, they help each other. Now that I actually have people wanting to book me, they have a huge problem with me. Again, I’ve never spoken to any of these wives.

This base is full of nothing but anger and hatred. It’s disgusting. All the wives are at each other’s throats all the time instead of helping and supporting one another, unless under special clauses like the photo wives seemed to have worked out. I wish I could say I’m excited to PCS, but truthfully it’s going to be like this at every base, and I’ll never escape the horrible, horrible people that are the military wives.

  • me @ my skin: can you chill out?
  • my skin @ me: can YOU chill out and eat some vegetables and stop crying all the time?
  • me:

i will never understand how photographers here who seriously suck are getting hired and paid more than me

not saying i’m the best in the game but at least i know to not put a bright white vignette on my photos

i really love how people still try glorifying being awkward

let me tell you something

i have been told “you’re so awkward” from just about every person i have met on this base

IT IS NOT A GOOD FEELING

it makes me clam up and i get super anxious whenever someone says this to me. i then begin carefully thinking about what i am about to say and then i end up saying some fucked up string of words that makes no sense. it is a horrible and degrading feeling that makes me want to go back to my house and never leave.

not sure why i even fucking bother being a photographer anymore

everyone else here gets to live the dream and charge a damn fortune and everyone comes running to them, while i offer an affordable rate since we all broke military bitches and not a single fucking person picks me

fuck off everyone

i never come on here anymore but now i’m unemployed again and i have been trying to get my photo career up and running bUT I CANT BECAUSE EVERY FUCKING WIFE ON BASE IS A GODDAMN PHOTOGRAPHER 

LIKE SERIOUSLY FUCK OFF EVERYONE STOP OFFERING FREE SESSIONS AND MAKING IT FUCKING IMPOSSIBLE FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME TO GET A START

I FUCKING HATE THIS PLACE OMG

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